Queer and A, LGBTQ+ News & Lesbian Space Princess

Welcome to Let's Be Perfectly Queer Podcast, your go to LGBT Australian podcast for all things queer.

This week's we're back with one of our favourite segments "Queer and A". This is where we dive into Reddit's "Ask LGBT" threads to answer questions in the good old reddit way.

In this episode, we're tackling a range of topics:

• Queer Allyship: Can a straight, cisgender guy paint his nails with a rainbow for Pride without it being cultural appropriation? We weigh in, sharing our thoughts and some of the top Reddit comments on the subject.
• Family Dynamics: A trans woman asks for advice on dealing with her sister, who uses her kids as an excuse for her transphobic behavior. We discuss setting boundaries with family and the importance of not "making yourself smaller to appease her".
• Internalised Homophobia: A 17-year-old girl struggling with her own internalized homophobia asks for advice and resources to become "more of an ally to myself". 
• Toxic Relationships: We get real about a bisexual woman's dilemma: her boyfriend is "a little homophobic," using slurs and making her feel uncomfortable

We also share some important news about a new report from LGBTQ rights group, OutRight International, revealing that politicians worldwide used anti-LGBTQ rhetoric in their campaigns last year. We reflect on the progress our community has made despite the current political climate, noting that LGBTQ people have more support and organizations now than ever before.

We also give you our opinion on "Lesbian Space Princess" currently playing in Luna Cinemas across Australia. 

🎧 Grab your headphones and join us as we step into a world where Reddit questions help us feel less alone… and until next time, stay perfectly queer!

Archie & Katie 🌈

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Transcript

Podcast: Let's Be Perfeclty Queer Podcast

Episode Title: Queer and A

Host(s): Katie, Archie

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Archie: Welcome to Let's Be Perfectly Queer, 

 Katie: a queer podcast, creating space to talk about all things queer. 

 Archie: My name is Archie. 

 Katie: And I'm Katie. 

 Archie: And we are your host 

 Katie: questions of how you identify, seeking answers, to clarify whether Queen or somewhere in between. Let's be perfectly clear and we're back. 

 Archie: We sure are from outer space and on to wait, when did we go to space?

 Archie: We didn't. In your dreams. Today's episode is another q and a where we read Reddit questions on lgbtq plus threads. Yay. I 

 Katie: love these. 

 Archie: I know you do. But before we get into that, we have new listeners. 

 Katie: Tell me about it. 

 Archie: So we have new listeners in Franklin, Tennessee, Sandy Central, Bedfordshire. Canton Michigan and Hove Brighton.

 Archie: And Hove. 

 Katie: Brighton. And Hove. 

 Archie: Yeah. So those are our new listeners. Thank you so much for listening and tuning in. 

 Katie: Yeah, thanks for listening in. I love hearing where our new listeners are from. It's so awesome. 

 Archie: You sure do. Now, just some quick news before we get into today's episode. There was a lot of elections last year with 73 countries taking to the polls, and according to a new report from L-G-B-T-Q Rights Group, outright international.

 Archie: Politicians all over the world used anti L-G-B-T-Q rhetoric in their campaigns last year. 

 Katie: Oh, so disappointing. 

 Archie: So outright international found that. In at least 50, one of the 61 places, they looked at politicians straight up weaponized anti LGBTQIA plus messaging just to win votes. 

 Katie: Oh God. 

 Archie: Uruguay, Panama, Australia, Moldova, and the UK were among 27 countries where politicians leaned into trying to use the gender ideology, gender madness, and indoctrination narrative to go after lgbtq plus folks.

 Archie: Especially trans people. 

 Katie: That's humanity though. That's the whole thing is they're playing with humans as a part of like vying for votes. It's horrible and it's disgusting. 

 Archie: So I'll post a link to the full report in the show notes. Sometimes it can be hard with all the negative LGBTQ plus news. At the moment, but L-G-B-T-Q people are more accepted now than we were decades ago.

 Katie: Yeah. 

 Archie: So even though it does feel like it is quite negative 

 Katie: mm-hmm. 

 Archie: We have this next generation and this generation now where it's not the big family taboo anymore to be the gay cousin or the gay uncle that nobody talks about. I know it can be hard to remember how far we have come with the political climate of today, but we have made massive strides and we can be more out and open than you know, lgbtq plus folk were decades ago.

 Katie: Yeah, it's true, isn't it? Like no matter what, even though you can see the hardship that's happening in the moment around the world and the derogatory comments that are happening towards the queer community and specifically trans people that you are right still. It was funny when you said that. 'cause it, the knee jerk reaction I had was like, no, it's fucked.

 Katie: Like, yeah. 

 Archie: You got so mad I could see on your face. I was like, I'm just calmed down. I'm just reading. 

 Katie: That's why I have to self limit my emotions. 

 Archie: Yeah. 

 Katie: But yeah, I was like, fuck no. Like that's, it's true. It is. Even considering everything that happens at the moment and is happening and how dangerous the world is, generally as well, I would feel more comfortable.

 Katie: And maybe this is hard because hindsight being 2020, but I think that if I was growing up now. And was having the conversations I had to have as a kid or a young adult with my parents about being queer and I had to have them now, I think that I would feel more empowered, at least knowing that I was normal.

 Katie: Mm-hmm. Because that's what it come down to at the end of the day, is like. I thought I was alone in this and I'm not. It's easy to not be alone right now. 

 Archie: Yeah. There's better support systems than decades ago where, you know, right now a lot of young LGBTQ plus people can access resources, groups and supports that we never had growing up, and there definitely wasn't around decades ago.

 Archie: So even though it does seem that the world is bleak and everybody hates the gays, it's not true. Yeah. Um, you know, it has been a lot of rhetoric and politics and a lot of people who. Quite hateful have been using the queer community as an easy minority group to target. But when we look at the bigger picture, we are more supported than we were decades ago.

 Archie: Hmm. So, 

 Katie: yeah, and we've got more organizations who acknowledge us. We've got more understanding, more supports. Than ever before in the world. Yeah. To be honest, even though it might not feel like that, mm-hmm. We have more community than ever before. 

 Archie: Yeah. Talk about community. We recently saw Lesbian Space Princess, thanks to Neil.

 Archie: Out loud and out loud. Culture. What is it's animation like animated movie. Yeah. It's an introverted space princess. Who was forced to leave a home planet on an intergalactic mission to save her ex-girlfriend from straight white Ian. So we saw that at Luna Cinemas and we hadn't been to Luna Cinemas for a while, so that was really cool.

 Archie: Gosh, no, it actually won the 2025 Burn in International Film Festival Best feature Teddy Award, and it won the 2024 Adelaide Film Festival audience award. 

 Katie: It was amazing and so, so unexpected as well. Going into it, I didn't really know what to think. I mean, I, I love adventure time. It kind of gave me those, a little bit of those vibes from seeing the advertising for it.

 Katie: I enjoyed it so much. It is, if you're looking for something lighthearted, easy to watch, 

 Archie: silly, 

 Katie: silly, queer friendly, something to just brighten your day. I would say 10 outta 10. Go for it. Have a watch. Enjoy your time. 

 Archie: Yeah. I wasn't so sure in the first five minutes, so I was like, oh no. What? What have we got ourselves into?

 Archie: Get over? The first five minutes is kind of like, where's it kind of heading? But then it started to pick up its pace. Yeah. 

 Katie: Don't take your kids to it. No. 

 Archie: Oh no. It's not PG friendly. 

 Katie: It's not, there is swearing. I mean, the planet's called clitoris, so it kind of gives you the vibes of, but unless you have a very forward thinking, I don't know.

 Katie: No, no. I don't have children lot. I'm not gonna make a 

 Archie: call for your parenting. No, don't do it. Don't do it. Don't. There's a lot of sexual innuendos and stuff like, it's not for kids. It's an adult animation for sure. Yeah. Okay, that's enough of that. And now let's get into today's episode. 

 Katie: Let's get into the queer A.

 Archie: So on this episode, we are reading Reddit stories. 

 Katie: Oh, I love these episodes. 

 Archie: So it's a Q and a or a queer A as we call it. And these are from the subreddit. Ask LGBT. Ugh, 

 Katie: love. 

 Archie: Yeah. So Queer Renee, time queer Renee. It's been a while. 

 Katie: I love a queer Renee. 

 Archie: I know you do. Ugh. So the title of this one, flying Colors as a Straight Dude.

 Archie: I a cis head guy. For those who dunno, that's, uh, cisgender, heterosexual. So born male and straight. 

 Katie: Mm. 

 Archie: Am considering painting a rainbow on my nails for upcoming pride months. Oh my 

 Katie: gosh. I love 

 Archie: Would that be akin to cultural appropriation or am I good? What are your thoughts? 

 Katie: What am I good? That's so funny.

 Katie: Yeah. Um, no, I fucking love that. Right? That's so beautiful. It's, it's just basically showing that. You support pride, you support you being an ally. Individuals. Yeah. You're a great ally. Oh, I love this. Yeah, I would love to see this more. 

 Archie: So the top comment is, dude, please do it. Anyone can wear the rainbow and I better look fantastic on you.

 Katie: Oh, so gorgeous. 

 Archie: Another relevant comment was, yes, please. Now Polish looks amazing on men, no matter their sexuality or sex. Do You 

 Katie: know what, when I was younger and I saw a guy with nail polish, I was like, Ooh, hot. 

 Archie: People like it, you know? It's a lot of the band punk rockers, you know? Yeah. Oh yeah. 

 Katie: Well, I mean it's very, 

 Archie: it's very emo punky thing to do.

 Katie: Yeah. And also it's just like, it's really beautiful. Yeah. I love it. It's just a very simple way to show that you support the quid community. Yeah. And very easy because like it probably will last two weeks. Yeah. If you've got good nail polish, maybe. Who 

 Archie: knows? Who knows? Unless you like to picket it. 

 Katie: Yeah.

 Archie: The title of the next one, how do I deal with my sister using her children as a shield to keep me from being myself? 

 Katie: Ooh. 

 Archie: So obviously me and my sister are grownups now. I'm 22. She's 26 and has had three kids. One that's six and one that's five and one that's two. So I've been identifying as a woman, male to female for the last year or so, but every time I'm myself, she has to always say things like, can you maybe not dress so much like that?

 Archie: Because I don't want to have to talk with the kids, talking about her kids. Or I don't wanna talk about gender stuff to my kids. They're too young to understand. First off, I never asked her to talk about gender stuff with the kids at all. I just wanna be myself. But it's like whenever I am myself, she has to make it weird and awkward and makes me feel like I've to hide myself or cover myself up and pretend to be a cis man.

 Archie: The truth is, I'm not a cis man. I'm a trans woman, and I wanna dress and present myself the way I want to. It's not like I'm going up to my niece and nephew or my family members saying stuff like, call me Auntie or Call me. She. I kind of just keep that part silent because I feel like my family knows, but have had a hard time accepting it, which is fine because it's not like they're mean to me, which is a good thing.

 Archie: My overall point is how do I deal with my sister when she makes me feel guilty by putting the kids in front of me to gimme a reason to feel guilty. I've hidden myself and covered up myself far too long, like most of my life, and I'm not going to cover up or hide my true self due to others' inability to understand or their inability to want to understand or just ignorance.

 Archie: I'm not even going to apologize. I don't give a f. You want to talk about that stuff with your kids, then fine. And if you don't, then don't. It's none of my effing business. 

 Katie: Yeah. Ooh, what's your thoughts? There's, there's so much to unpack there. 

 Archie: Yeah. 

 Katie: Because in essence, I, I mean, good on them for being in the journey.

 Katie: I think there's a lot to unpack here. Mm-hmm. I think at the end of it, they're in essence saying, I wouldn't accept the low standards of somebody who is trying to tell me that I can't be who I wanna be. But their actions aren't being like that. In essence, they're allowing themselves in a way to be asked to have that boundary overstepped of a family member being like, just be less of yourself.

 Katie: I, it's hard because I've been in the same, a similar situation and I just put the boundary in and I was like, this is what I expect from you. I expect you to call me by this name. I expect you to not have to be making this a big deal, and if you don't, we won't have a relationship. And I think it's really hard and it's easy for me to do this, and I think that I find it a bit triggering when I see people in these situations and being like.

 Katie: Don't lower your standards just because it's family. 

 Archie: Yeah. 

 Katie: And if anything, family should be the most supportive of you and they're right. Their sister is making the biggest deal out of something that doesn't have to be a big deal. Yeah. We have had so many family and friends navigate the probably.

 Katie: Potentially difficult situation that is you being trans and me being pan and this relationship that we are, that it's not actually a big deal. And they're just like, it is just what it is. There are people who are different and I think that your sister is taking away from the relationships that she's gonna have with her children.

 Katie: Mm-hmm. Because in essence she's saying it's not right to be who you are. And that feeling is horrible. I just don't like, I think that you've gotta have some, like, I think you've gotta have a conversation with her at the least and say, this is how I identify. Sometimes you have to, even though it might feel uncomfortable, but sometimes you have to have that conversation to give the person the benefit of the doubt and to actually open a conversation.

 Katie: So they might be able to ask questions and they can actually learn more. And the worst thing that can happen is. She through that still doesn't accept you and then you know where to go from there. 

 Archie: Uh, so top comment if she can't talk to her kids about this, she's a shitty parent. 

 Katie: Yeah. 

 Archie: Another commentary writes, you do not have anything to feel guilty about here.

 Archie: No matter how many tantrums she throws or how hard she tries to guilt trip you. You are not doing anything offensive or inappropriate by dressing as the woman you are. She does not have to talk to her kids about trans people if she doesn't want to, though they're absolutely not too young to understand.

 Archie: Many trans people report knowing from preschool age, but she does not get to tell you how to dress or present yourself either. Family like this is really hard because you feel like the baddy if they kick up a fuss at your presentation, right? But them being like, that is a choice. They don't have to make a big deal.

 Archie: They are choosing to, 

 Katie: yeah. 

 Archie: You're an adult. If she gets mad about how you dress, that's her choice. You do not need to make yourself smaller to appease her. 

 Katie: Yeah, exactly. It is a choice of her acting the way that she is. Yeah. Disappointing. Hopefully she learns. 

 Archie: Yeah. 

 Katie: And learns that she's got a brilliant sister.

 Archie: That's the thing. You know, at the end of the day, sometimes family is in blood. 

 Katie: Yeah. 

 Archie: The title of the next one, I'm Gay and Homophobic. 

 Katie: Ooh, I'm 

 Archie: 17. Female. Definitely like women, but also I think I am a little homophobic. No idea where this came from. As most of my friends are gay, my parents are perfectly accepting and lovely, and my sister is bi.

 Archie: I've got a crush on a girl, but I don't really like to like her. I think it feels embarrassing, and sometimes I have a dream where I have a boyfriend or something and I wake up super upset. I don't know. Sometimes I'll see something and my immediate jump reaction is, oh, ooh, that's kind of gay, and I have to remind myself that I too am gay, not really sure how to get around this or become more of an ally to myself.

 Archie: Read my first, uh, woman loving woman book recently. Anytime I get any representation, I usually start crying asap, but I just read a wholesome, cute book and enjoyed it. I guess let me know if you guys have experience with this or ideas or even book movie suggestions to get more used to the idea. TLDR. For those who don't know what that stands for, it's um, too long, didn't read.

 Archie: I'm a smidge homophobic while actively having a crush on a girl. Any suggestions? 

 Katie: Therapy? Yeah, I think that's the long and short of it. 

 Archie: Yeah. 

 Katie: I mean, only through unpacking why you have these feelings. Will you be able to move forward with these feelings? It's 

 Archie: internalized homophobia. 

 Katie: Yeah, it is. Yeah. But it's curious to think where it's come from.

 Katie: Yeah, because like, I mean, it's hard because we don't get all the context in the world. It could 

 Archie: be from friends at that age. Yeah. 17, very, you know, 

 Katie: but they're saying like their parents are accepting. They've got a bi sister, they've got mostly queer friends. It's like, well, where is it coming from? There's so many different avenues that it could come from.

 Katie: Yeah. You just never really know Social media. Yeah. Completely. 

 Archie: Uh, top comment, please get some therapy. Yeah. This sort of thing isn't going to go away and you should definitely work on your internalized bigotry before you inflict it on another queer person. 

 Katie: Oh, such a good point. 

 Archie: Yeah. Uh, another relevant comment, it's called internalized homophobia.

 Archie: It is a real thing that has been studied and is common amongst most gays. Even if you have a loving and accepting family and a supportive friend group, at some point you've picked up this messaging that gay equals bad or less than and have clung tight to that insecurity. Who could blame you? Media, religious groups, pop culture, social anxiety.

 Archie: There's a lot that can make you feel a certain type of way about the person you are. The struggle is rising above it and loving yourself as a whole person who happens to be gay and also a lot of other amazing things. Therapy can be a big, big help hanging out with other queer friends, consume gay media, listen to music by gay musicians, or watch TV shows featuring gay storylines.

 Archie: Read gay books. Go to Pride if you can, and experience the beauty of your community. Join gay subreddits or discord servers. Make friends do gay things. Become comfortable with this part of you because it is awesome and legitimate and worthy of being celebrated. 

 Katie: That's beautiful and such a fair point. 

 Archie: The title of the next one.

 Archie: I think my boyfriend is a little homophobic. What should I do? 

 Katie: Ooh. 

 Archie: I am a bisexual girl who's been with my boyfriend for almost eight months and he uses the F slur with his friends a lot. He says he's grown up with it being used since elementary, so he didn't realize it was bad. 

 Katie: No, I don't believe that.

 Archie: He always does this thing where he'll pretend he is gonna say it to make me mad. He's been using it less, but describes things that are weird or stupid as gay and his friends say the slur a whole lot. I thought I would be able to change his perspective since he's okay with me being bi. I've explained to him why it's so hurtful to say this slur and that being trans is valid, but it seems like it's going through one ear and out the other.

 Archie: Considering he's been raised around men who openly say they would disown their sons for being gay or a little feminine, it makes sense. I really want him to change and get out of the, I don't support, I just tolerate mindset. For any former homophobic and or transphobic people or just any fellow queer people in general, what made you change or can help with changing and do you think it will help him change too?

 Katie: No, I think that's the short answer of it, isn't it? 

 Archie: Yeah. 

 Katie: You've already asked him to have a standard that it. In essence, you've asked him to not say those words. Yeah. And not be disrespectful, the queer community. And he is still doing it 

 Archie: and you know, and he can't understand or he refuses to fully understand why he shouldn't be saying it.

 Katie: And above that he even does it to provoke you. Yeah. Knowing that you, how you stand with it. No, there's no future in this relationship. No. He's a horrible person. And he surrounds himself with horrible people. Why would you want that in your life? He's a lost cause. 

 Archie: So nothing will help him change. And the way that things are gonna change is if you leave and you've gotta leave.

 Katie: Yeah, exactly. Do better. Yeah. Have better standards. So the top comment 

 Archie: of this one was so he's homophobic and also purposefully messes with you by pretending he's about to say homophobic slurs to make you upset. Why are you with someone like that? 

 Katie: Absolutely. 

 Archie: Another relevant comment reads, why do you wanna help him change when he is, when he is a grown adult?

 Archie: Presumably when you can date someone who already knows better. Look, I know you're probably attached to him, but he sucks. Homophobes aren't worth dating ever. It's also not your job to help change a grown man who should know better. Even if he was taught that and somehow doesn't know better, it's still not your job to save him.

 Archie: Your only obligation at this point is to yourself. Think about it this way. If you had a bisexual friend who was dating a blatant homophobe, what would you tell them? 

 Katie: Yeah, completely. 

 Archie: And the thing is as well, he's got friends and so behind closed doors, he's probably gonna still do the same thing. 

 Katie: Yeah.

 Katie: Completely. You know, 

 Archie: he's got friends who are homophobic, say the slurs say worse. So, 

 Katie: and what if it was the other way? Like what if it was a different way around? What if they were racist? 

 Archie: Yeah. 

 Katie: And then saying inappropriate words to you. 

 Archie: Would you, would you allow that? 

 Katie: It's the same disrespect. Well, not exactly the same disrespect.

 Katie: I don't wanna make it equal there because like people, our, like black individuals in the world have done so much and had to endure so much. But it's just, it's, it's the disrespect that gets me. 

 Archie: Yeah. 

 Katie: I'm like, fuck. Why would you be with somebody who disrespects you? Blatantly disrespects you. 

 Archie: Yeah. 

 Katie: Every single day 

 Archie: title That is the next one.

 Archie: New slur just dropped, I guess. I don't even know anymore. Feeling really alone right now. I was out with a couple of friends just walking around and mining our own business and a couple of apparently cis head. So again, uh, cisgender heterosexual men rounded the corner. One of them said to us, Hey guys, I was a bit annoyed, I'll admit, but I think I was as polite as I could have been when I replied.

 Archie: Just so you know, we are not all guys. You shouldn't assume that. This dude rolls his eyes at me and said, God damn gender monkeys. 

 Katie: Oh, 

 Archie: is this even a thing? I've never heard that before. I'm coping with it, but I'm seething low key. 

 Katie: Um, I, I think I'm packing this with a couple of different things. Yep. I don't know.

 Katie: It just the first part of. Being like, we are not all guys. Jeez. 

 Archie: Yes. 

 Katie: I feel like you're just poking a bear. 

 Archie: Yeah. 

 Katie: I dunno why It's a very, in Australia, 

 Archie: we say, Hey guys, to everybody. Like, and it's, yeah. And I, I do get the connotation comes from, you know, men, male masculine, but in some cultures and things it's just colloquial to just to save for everyone.

 Archie: Yeah. Completely. I get it. Some people don't like it, but also we don't know how this person said it. We dunno, the context, the tone, et cetera. And then when that person said that, it, it was for me, if someone said that, it'd be like, you're, that's just not, it's not worth it. Like yeah, you are, you are provoking, you're poking a bit.

 Archie: Yeah. 

 Katie: It, it just doesn't, it doesn't need to be there. I don't agree with how they responded. Mm-hmm. A hundred percent. I would've been like, well, they're a complete dickhead. After they were just like, oh, these gender monkeys, or whatever it is. It's not a slang. Or, I feel like this person is just taking things to the nth degree.

 Katie: 'cause they're just like, is this a new slang that we're expecting? You've heard it once. Yeah. First of all. Yeah. Second of all, yeah. It's not great. Obviously this person was meaning to it in a negative way. Yes, of course they were. Does it matter if it's slang? It totally doesn't in Australia. If someone was like, Hey guys.

 Katie: I could say that to a room full of women. Yeah, I've said that to a room full of women. Many, many, many, many times. Yeah. It's actually for Australians, and I guess this is different, this is always gonna be different around the world, but for Australians it's a non-binary term. It's, 

 Archie: yeah, it's a general neutral term in Australia.

 Archie: Thank you very 

 Katie: much for putting that in a better way. It doesn't mean anything. 

 Archie: And that's the thing. So we don't know where this is and that kind of stuff, and it could mean different connotation, but for us here in Australia, it's really a non-issue. 

 Katie: Yeah, completely. Uh, and 

 Archie: I think god damn gender monkeys would make a great saying on a shirt, 

 Katie: God damn gender monkeys.

 Katie: I just 

 Archie: saw that and I was like, that'd make a great shirt for pride. At top 

 Katie: he would do, 

 Archie: uh, self comment. That absolutely sucks, and I'm sorry it happened, but please, for your own safety, remember, you don't owe a complete stranger knowledge of your gender, especially in passing. 

 Katie: Oh, fair point. 

 Archie: Being misgendered sucks, but guys, assuming you're a Native English speaker, is generally regarded as gender neutral.

 Archie: Unless you are being maliciously misgendered or you have to see the person regularly, it's sometimes safer to let it go and keep moving. From an older queer, just keep safe out there. 

 Katie: Yeah, that's such a good point. Yeah. It really is. 

 Archie: Another relevant comment, I'm sorry, but people use guys to address groups of people of different genders all the time.

 Archie: Not excusing what he said afterwards, but your initial response seems pedantic. 

 Katie: Yeah, that's exactly, that's exactly what I want to say. 

 Archie: Uh, someone replied under that comment, using guys and dudes as the default for everyone annoys the hell out of me. It centers being male as the default human being. That said, I still wouldn't have said anything here.

 Archie: I plain wouldn't have talked to random cis males. They're too likely to be dangerous or just plain annoying. 

 Katie: Yeah. Different 

 Archie: takes on it. Yeah. 

 Katie: I also understand the context of like, it's really such a shame that Yeah, the standard is calling everyone a man. Yeah. And like, yeah. I mean, I totally understand that it doesn't make things any better, but I also am like, unfortunately this is how some of us have grown up and been like, Hey guys.

 Katie: And like now, I tend to be like, Hey, team. 

 Archie: Yeah, I try, Hey team sometimes, but it doesn't ring off the tongue as nice, unfortunately. Makes 

 Katie: me feel like a boomer. 

 Archie: The title of the next one. What is Protect the Dolls and how do you feel about the word choice? It didn't have any description, that's just the title.

 Katie: Oh, I think I've heard something about this, but I don't remember. 

 Archie: So Pedro Pascal and a couple other celebrities have been wearing shirts that say Protect the Dolls. 

 Katie: Oh, okay. Yeah. Didn't know about that. 

 Archie: Oh, you didn't? 

 Katie: No. Oh. 

 Archie: So top comment, it originally came from Black and Latino, LGBT, ballroom Dance Culture and spread out from there.

 Archie: It was a call to protect the trans women at the events from assault and harassment. Oh, 

 Katie: yes. 

 Archie: It has always been a positive message. Someone says, A-F-I-A-K, which stands for, as far as I know, protect the Dolls is the same as saying, protect trans women. Essentially, trans women are the ones being demonized by the media.

 Archie: Mm-hmm. And are more visually attacked. Whereas trans men and trans masculine, enb, uh, or non-binary people are usually not demonized as much. I think the word choice is silly. Yes. Trans women are demonized by the media far more than any other subject of trans people, but the laws affect all of us equally, I don't like the division between trans people created by specifying protect the dolls as opposed to a generic protect trans people.

 Archie: Protect all trans people, not just the dolls. 

 Katie: Yeah. Fair. 

 Archie: Uh, another relevant comment if you read it and think, I must only protect trans women, the issue is with you protect all trans folk, protect all trans kid, protect all queer folk. It's just a slogan. Mm-hmm. At this point in time to remind us and raise awareness, it does not take away from anyone and it only encourages visibility.

 Archie: If you choose to infight because of it, you will in fight because of anything. 

 Katie: Yeah, it's like that whole Black Lives Matter thing. 

 Archie: That's exactly it. So I think, you know, protect the Dolls I think is great. You know, it's a, yeah, it's a way when someone wears, you know, protect trans people or something like that.

 Archie: Some people fight or they might attack a bit more, where you have something that protects the dolls. It's almost similar to the, you know, friend of Dorothy. Yeah. It's like you're saying something. Without overtly saying it to piss people off, but you're saying it to say, Hey, I stand for the, with the trans community.

 Katie: Yeah. True. Yeah. Yeah. 

 Archie: That's how I feel about it anyway. 

 Katie: No, I agree. I think that no matter what, it's still shining a light. I think it's nice and 

 Archie: Yeah. And more celebrities were wearing it because of that. Yeah. And you know, 

 Katie: I, I really like how Pedro Pascal has shown such love and support to his trans sister and bringing her on the red carpet and letting her have her time to shine.

 Katie: Yeah. I think it's been beautiful and been, and because he's such a topical person at the moment. Mm-hmm. And people are really loving him. Yep. And seeing that support from somebody that they love has been really important. Yeah. 

 Archie: Uh, let's end on a fun one. The title of this is, is It Offensive to Shorten LGBTQA Plus TOI Community?

 Archie: Straight Person Asking. Heard It From a B Friend, and it sounds like this. Do you wanna hear it? Yeah, I do. Okay. 

 Katie: I mean, I feel like if you are talking colloquially and being. Yes. I'm going down to a 

 Archie: let's go hang out with other, at the, the pride. 

 Katie: I feel like, are you having a stroke? I would be so confused.

 Katie: I'm really like, are you okay? 'cause look, 

 Archie: it sounds better in my head, but when I keep reading it, I keep screwing it up because it's not phonetic.

 Archie: Community. Sorry, most upvoted comment, what do you reckon? But before you didn't gimme your opinion. So what do you reckon? Is it offensive to shorten the LGBTQIA plus community to leisure community? I 

 Katie: don't think it's offensive. I just think it's funny. 

 Archie: Yeah. 

 Katie: Like if I, I dare you, I dare you to say that in front of one of our friends the next month.

 Archie: Okay. If I remember, oh, it's, you know, my, my memory's really bad. 

 Katie: No, I'm gonna put reminders in the phone for every day. 

 Archie: So most upvoted comment sounds effing epic, but don't expect me to not laugh every time somebody says Leisure de freaking Elizabeth. What? 

 Katie: It's like learning a new language.

 Katie: You know your friends and they're like

 Archie: another commenter. Write Lost ides. Left. The chat has entered the chat. We should jokingly normalize this. 

 Katie: Do you know what would happen? They'd think that there was some kind of, like the government would think it was some kind of organization. Yeah. And be like, we need to, we need to target the, 

 Archie: uh, another relevant comment.

 Archie: It's basically the phonetic French pronunciation of L-G-B-T-Q. So, no. 

 Katie: Yeah. 

 Archie: Another one writes, no, this is the name of our nation. Now stand for the Anthem. Wait, what do we agree on for Anthem? 

 Katie: Oh, it'd be something Dolly Parton. Yeah. I'd say welcome. F No, but you change 

 Archie: the words. 

 Katie: It'd be, um, Jolene. 

 Archie: It 

 Katie: would, you know, it would, 

 Archie: and final comment.

 Archie: It's not really offensive, but it's so intentionally comedic and nonsensical that using it in any context beyond an in joke with your friends is Ill-advised. 

 Katie: Oh, well, I guess so. 

 Archie: Yeah. Just to 

 Katie: kill the vibe there. I know. It really did, didn't it? It was just like. You know, where you're like, whoa, we're all having a fun time.

 Katie: And it's just like, I hate you. And you're like, oh, fuck. 

 Archie: To change the whole, the vibe of the place. But yeah. Oh God. To all you is listening, I hope you enjoyed this episode, 

 Katie: qua. We appreciate you 

 Archie: in all your different areas of the globe. And thanks yeah, for getting all the way through this episode. I hope you enjoyed it.

 Archie: And it was just a bit of a lighthearted. Q and a with the subreddit. Ask LGBT and we are that. Yeah, so,

 Archie: and I hope you enjoyed this episode and until next time, I hope that we have been 

 Katie: perfectly queer.

 Archie: Let's.